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Issue 308 - April 25, 2007

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Years ago I went into the studio and recorded a 56-minute DVD for teenagers called, "Three Keys to Greatness." Although my focus was for teenagers, the principles I shared certainly apply to adults as well.

Recently I was asked to list these three things using one to two sentences for each. Now for your benefit here they are again.

1) Setting Goals. I call it the view of the future. Most people, including kids, will pay the price if they can see the promise of the future. So we need to help our kids see a well-defined future, so they will be motivated to pay the price today to attain the rewards of tomorrow. Goals help them do this.

2) Personal Development. Simply making consistent investments in our self-education and knowledge banks pays major dividends throughout our lives. I suggest having a minimum amount of time set aside for reading books, listening to audiocassettes, attending seminars, keeping a journal and spending time with other successful people. Charlie Tremendous Jones says you will be in five years the sum total of the books you read and the people you are around.

3) Financial Planning. I call it the 70/30 plan. After receiving your paycheck or paying yourself, simply setting aside 10% for saving, 10% for investing and 10% for giving, and over time this will guarantee financial independence for a teenager.

If a young person, or for that matter an adult, focused on doing these three simple things over a long period of time I believe they will be assured success!

To Your Success,
Jim Rohn


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Life Would Be Easy... If It Weren't for AGGRESSIVE People by Connie Podesta

The aggressive personality views life from a win/lose perspective, and they create oppositional relationships. Interactions with them become struggles for control of our personality and our life. Their weapons of choice are hurt and anger; their strategy is to make you feel bad; and their outcome is for you to change your mind, your attitude, or your behavior. But you always have a choice - and options!

Dealing with the Aggressive Person

The most important thing to remember in any personality conflict is that we cannot change anyone else. However, we can choose to change ourselves and how we react to other's attempts to manipulate us.

When faced with aggressive behavior, we have two possible responses. First, we can assert ourselves, confront the attack (which means we avoid reacting to the emotions and sensations their tactics trigger in us), and neutralize the onslaught. This is the assertive choice.

Second, we can allow ourselves to be drawn in and manipulated and respond by using one of three non-assertive communication styles. We can give in to the attack and avoid the issue at hand (passive); we can resort to imitating the difficult behavior by being manipulative right back (aggressive); or we can attempt to get even and teach them a lesson (passive-aggressive).

As long as a difficult person is allowed to behave in an inappropriate or unacceptable way and they are rewarded for this behavior by getting their needs met they will have no incentive to change. Assertive negative feedback works!

Difficult people do not respect people who allow them to get away with their manipulations; therefore, we must give the difficult person timely feedback (assertive negative) that their behavior is not acceptable. Unfortunately, many people try to avoid confrontation because they believe a confrontation will simply escalate the already tense situation, or they believe any type of confrontation or negative feedback will not coincide with their image of a "nice person".

Assertive negative means you must let the other person know as soon as possible, that their action, tone or behavior is not acceptable to you. It sounds mature and grown-up, functional and healthy, professional, in-control and confident; it can even sound caring and comforting.

For example, an aggressive negative response might sound like: "You are so lazy and irresponsible. How many times do I have to tell you to clean up your room?" Or "Oh fine. That's a great idea. I'm sure our clients will really enjoy waiting 2 extra days for their order." Or "I'm sick of dealing with you! I've had it!"

A more powerful, effective assertive negative response for each follows: "Son, I need you to clean your room now. I know you've had a lot going on after school, and it's easy to get distracted, but this needs to be your No. 1 priority." Or "I'm concerned that the new shipping schedule will cause a delay in getting our clients their orders on time. What can we do to make sure this doesn't happen?" Or "I'm frustrated and tired right now, and I'm sure you are too, so we're getting nowhere with this discussion. Let's talk again later."

Three important things changed:

The other person has been told that we have noticed their behavior and we feel it is not acceptable, appropriate or necessary.
There were no insults, put-downs, sarcastic statements or threats used.
We did not ignore, reward, accept or emulate their negative behavior.

Watch Out For Detours

The bottom line is that most difficult people are cowards. They really do not want to deal with anyone they think might see through the tears and threats and assertively take them on face-to-face. But aggressive people do want control. They want to get their needs met and have been taught by the rest of us that manipulation using hurt and anger usually works.

Assertiveness requires you to think about what you need to say, how you want to say it, and stick to the subject - your subject, not theirs. Be aware of detours and refuse to take them. You do not need to make excuses, defend yourself or apologize for stating your needs firmly with confidence and taking back control of your life!

Take Action!

- Think of a situation where someone has tried to detour you away from the subject. Did their technique work? Will it work next time?

- Think of an aggressive person in your life who uses hurt to get their way. How do you usually react to them? How could you be more assertive the next time you communicate with them?

- Think of an aggressive person in your life who uses anger to get their way. How do you usually react to them? How could you be more assertive the next time you communicate with them?


This article is by Connie Podesta, author, counselor, educator, humorist, playwright, consultant, songwriter, actress and trainer. She radiates a super-charged, high-energy presence that immediately involves people and has them responding to her exciting challenge to reach for the best in themselves! With her talent for humor, flair for drama and unique insight into human behavior, Connie delivers solid content and practical techniques that can be put to use immediately at work and home. To order Connie Podesta's products included in the Special Spring Inventory Sale this week -- all a special inventory reduction prices -- scroll down to #4 below or visit http://specials.jimrohn.com C 2004, 2007 Connie Podesta.


 

"Practice is the price of mastery. Whatever you practice over and over again becomes a new habit of thought and performance."  Brian Tracy

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